We have all heard the idea that happiness is a choice; if you choose to be happy, you will be.
Most people think that success brings happiness–“I’ll be happy when I…” is a very common thought process. The idea of the American dream is that if you work hard, you will be rewarded with success/happiness. Unfortunately, our brains are not wired this way. Happiness comes BEFORE success, not the other way around. When we are happy, we feel good about ourselves. How often have you felt good until you step on a scale and see a number that you don’t like? This is because you have decided to put more emphasis on that “magic number” than on how you FELT before you saw it!
So many outside influences in our culture are negative ones—our brains are full of ideas about what success means, how to achieve it and mostly, how we DON’T look, act or live like those whom we see as “successful”. As a culture, we have created goals that are nearly impossible to achieve and we place a huge emphasis on a narrow definition of what happiness is.
When I start to think about the people in my own life who seem to be truly happy, they are not necessarily the skinniest, prettiest or wealthiest. They are not often people whose lives are untouched by tragedy, trouble or challenges. In truth, most of them are people who have experienced loss in some way or another. They are grateful for the life they have and strive to make the world a better place for those around them. This doesn’t mean Angelina Jolie altruism; it means those whose happiness is multiplied by making others happy.
There is no time like the present! Take a few minutes each day to express gratitude for your life and the blessings in it. Quiet your mind and bring positive feelings to the surface. Amazing things can happen when you prioritize the good in life more than the setbacks and when you help to encourage that feeling in others!
Choose to Stay Flawless, My Friends!